Wednesday 01 July 2015
Barbara told us about her experience of The Shakespeare Hospice and why she is supporting the Sunflower Memory Meadow:
“I got involved in the Hospice through the support that my husband Allen received with the Hospice at Home team. They allowed Allen to spend his last moments at home with his family which is where he wanted to be They offered such great support and comfort to Allen and in return I wanted to give something back.
It took me a while, but eventually I came back to the Hospice on a Monday as a bereaved carer. When my time at the Hospice came to an end, one of the nurses suggested a bereavement support group that the Hospice were thinking of trialling and I thought “that sounds like a great idea”, so I put my name down straight away. As it turned out I took part in the first bereavement support group the Hospice held and it was a great success.
Now I take an active role in leading a much larger support group on a Friday morning at the Hospice, the Coffee Club. It gives me great pride to do this as it’s the one place that’s familiar to us all and it’s the one place where we can be honest with one another. The coffee club gives us all such strength and comfort. We look at the calendar each week and think “Oooh it’s Coffee Club this Friday!”
I wanted to be involved in the Sunflower Memory Meadow appeal as sunflowers always make me think of happy times. They are flowers that are always looking up, looking forward to the future. Life will never be the same after a bereavement but you have 2 choices – to either stay where you are, or to move forward and take the opportunities that are open to you. In my opinion you have to make the most of life whatever the circumstances. My husband Allen would be delighted to have his name standing proud on a sunflower memory marker with everyone to celebrate with him.
The faces of the sunflowers smiling to me reflects happiness for the future.
Let’s make a garden of happiness. A happiness that all families, whatever their journey, can enjoy.”
Click here to find out more about the Sunflower Memory Meadow and how you can dedicate a Sunflower in memory of a loved one.